I am no where near done venting on Google and their censorship but, I don’t want to kick this new blog off with a string of negative posts either! :D That said, I was working on a post on Blogger before it was disabled regarding a recent experience. At the urging of Miss Sadie, I reactivated a profile on Fetlife. A profile I created many years ago in a search for that special woman that would take charge of me in a meaningful relationship. Anyone who has read my posts knows that I have been looking for a women of authoritative persuasion who is confident in her position. She is strict to a degree and stern in her demeanor. She is consistent yet fair. Most of all, she is no pushover and would not hesitate to administer discipline when needed. The woman I seek is not interested in degradation, she is not looking for a slave or a piece of useful furniture. She is not interested in an animal that knows how to use the restroom. She is looking for a partner, a lover, a husband perhaps? The arrangement is in noway one of ownership or one-sided servitude. This woman understands that a man is basically flawed whether he chooses to admit it or not. His flaws are most often in the area of intimate relationships, family/household responsibilities and the like. She realizes that such a man is lacking discipline and if she were to provide that much needed motivation on a consistent basis, the relationship could be more harmonious than what it otherwise would be. Not many men will admit this let alone agree to such an arrangement. It took me many years to come to terms with the fact that while I detest the mere thought of being draped over my ladies knees with my bottom bared being soundly spanked for misbehavior, it was something that I benefited from immensely as did the relationship! It was at a time when I was really beginning to understand this aspect of intimacy that I began my search. My resources were limited in those days and Fetlife was one of a very few sites that allowed a person to post an ad seeking a mate. I was very disappointed with the results as most of those that frequented the site back then were looking for something quite different. It was more geared toward the S&M/B&D lifestyles which is exactly what I was NOT looking for. I couldn’t even identify what it was I was looking for as well as I could identify what I wasn’t looking for.
There wasn’t a large domestic discipline community represented online or anywhere else in those days so to categorize where I fit was difficult. That experience forced me away from the site and it wasn’t until I met Miss Sadie that I even remembered it. She assured me it was no longer dominated by the SM/BD crowd and that there were plenty of folks like me there. I was surprised to find that I still had the account and I reactivated it. I began to see people there that I had corresponded with on other spanking sites, groups, and blogs. I made the acquaintance of a lady I had not ran into before. She was local to my area (another nice feature of sites like Fetlife) but, she was listed as a “professional disciplinarian”…again, not exactly what I was looking for but, some friendly interaction online couldn’t hurt? It turned out that she and her domestic partner were very active in the spanking scene locally and were the hosts of a support group for lack of a better term. She had several pictures of herself posted on her profile and I found her to be very attractive. In fact, I couldn’t bring myself to imagine her are a strict/stern disciplinarian at all…more like the “girl next door” but her eyes….her eyes, had that look! it was a look I knew quite well, a look that said that judging her by her outward appearance and personality could be a major mistake if you were to upset her in any way! I friended her and she accepted. Through that friendship I was alerted to her activity in the group she hosted. The group was DelCo Spanko’s and they met once a month for a “meet and greet” social at various local venues.
I am not, nor have I ever been, very comfortable with sharing my needs and desires in public when it comes to spanking, discipline, punishment and so on. I have always viewed it as a very intimate and personal issue. I had been to more than a couple spanking parties in NY as a guest of my dear friend Ms. Kelly Payne and I had always felt a bit out of place. For one thing, most of the people at these get togethers seemed to enjoy spanking immensely. I do not! In fact, I abhor being spanked, it is truly a punishment to me and I react to it accordingly but, to harbor these needs inside for so long was much like an imprisonment. A very lonely place to be, So, while I felt nervous and even a bit different at these parties, I also felt as though I was with people that were more like me than anyone I was likely to meet in my daily life. The main thing that I found missing in these public spankings was the absence of accountability which is a very huge factor for me. Accountability is a large motivation for me to submit to such a humbling and painful correction. For me, spanking is not something I engage in for sexual gratification, it’s not foreplay for me. I understand that for a lot of people it is and I see nothing wrong with that but perhaps it was my introduction and past experience with it that has set the tone for what I seek now? Regardless, the Delco Spankos social interested me because it was a group of people in my own area and I wanted to make a connection. Miss Lisa was a very nice lady, the kind you meet and like immediately. The kind of lady that I envision as the type I could have a long and lasting Female Led Relationship with. Miss Lisa of course is already spoken for but I am talking about a lady like her, a very sweet personality, calm, friendly and assuring.
Miss Lisa is the type of lady anyone would want to have as a partner as far as her demeanor is concerned under normal circumstances. Of course for me, I fully expect that demeanor to change if my behavior warranted it. In fact, it would be hard for me to take a lady seriously if she were to maintain such a calm and friendly personality when the time comes for punishment. A stern, authoritative deportment gets my attention rather quickly and conveys the reality that my behavior has been unacceptable. This long before a bottom has been bared or a spank has landed! I stowed my prejudices and headed for the social. I was pleasantly surprised by the venue in Philadelphia. It was a very comfortable setting, almost like you were in someone’s living room. There weren’t many people there when I arrived. I have a thing about being late when there are dominant women involved! lol At first I thought it was going to be a bust. There were several men there but only a few women most of which were submissive. Miss Lisa was all she presented herself to be online. A very sweet lady with a wholesome appearance. She put me at ease. Equally as friendly was her partner Mr. Rob. Mr. Rob was the co-host, a dominant. He was a very nice man and also made me feel welcome and at home. I met a few of their close friends and they also were extremely friendly and warm people. Believe it or not I am quite shy in large groups especially when I don’t really know anyone. As the night went on, more people began to arrive. The proportion of men to women began to equal out as well. There were several side rooms set up for private encounters and a couple larger rooms were partitioned off to create several more semi-private areas.
I was a little reluctant to participate in the festivities for reasons stated above but halfway through the evening I joined a lovely lady I had been talking to in one of the semi-private rooms. She was a switch and I showed her some of my paddles. She really wanted to try one out and I was close enough to be elected to the post! I went over her knee and she started over my jeans. The paddle had the familiar sting but it was rather faint. After a little while, my jeans came down and the paddle was applied to my underpants. The sting was more intense as you would expect and the heat began to grow in my covered cheeks! She had brought along a paddle of her own. A very interesting piece in that it was hard wood on one side and thick rubber on the other, She applied that to my covered bottom and my eyes almost popped out of their sockets! I couldn’t believe the sting that implement produced! Very impressive and I found myself thanking my lucky stars that I wasn’t the one who had to fear that thing on a daily basis! Finally, my underpants came down and I received several dozen spanks with each implement before she was through. We returned to the main room, her with a smile and me with a very warm, stinging bottom. I was pleasantly surprised at how warm and welcoming these folks were. I liked her husband from the start, he was a very nice guy and I enjoyed our conversation. The whole place was filled with the sound of flesh being smacked b y now, in fact, it was coming from all directions. There were howls and yelps, cries and pleas, there was even some wailing now and then!
I could tell that this was a close knit group for the most part. There was no pressure to participate but I found myself wishing there was! The biggest appeal to my choice in lifestyles is a dominant, authoritative woman so for me, I would have melted if one had approached and simply ordered me to follow her! Perhaps Miss Lisa would have in a different setting I don’t know? What I do know is there is a certain protocol that you should follow at a party of this type and rightfully so. One lady that did get my attention was Miss Miranda from London Tanners…she has a look that is very intimidating in a good way if there is such a thing? There is for me! :) There is no doubt that she is confident in her dominance, it comes across as a natural state for her. Her gaze can melt your knees and I had the pleasure of observing her in action and the bless of not feeling her in action!!! Funny how that works with me, in the cross hairs, I attempt to avoid such a ladies wrath but once out of range, I find myself wishing she had taken me to task. The one lady I was hoping would take me to task when I decided to attend, did! I followed Miss Lisa to a semi-private room as the faint and familiar thumping of my heart set the tempo of that “long” walk.
I knew from her profile that she would be celebrating her birthday on this very evening and I decided I would make a gift of one of my finest Bubinga hairbrush paddles to mark the occasion. She seemed genuinely grateful by the gesture and promptly decided to try it out on my own still slightly stinging bottom! As gently and femininely as Miss Lisa carries herself, she is a strong lady and bigger than I. That alone was enough to intimidate me as I followed behind watching her elegant strides, the hairbrush paddle swaying at her side as she walked. Not knowing what you are in for can also be a little worrisome. Once in the room she went over the few guidelines we would follow. She liked to begin on the trousers and slowly work her way to the bare bottom. She politely asked if I was open to a bare bottom spanking. At first I didn’t know how to react to the inquiry, I’m not used to a choice. I assured her I was and then the next surprise for me…identifying a “safe word”! I am not sure what the look on my face was when she announced it but I can only imagine it was one of confusion. I have never used or been given the option of a safe word. Realizing the difference of my situation here, I agreed to one she offered then over her knee I went. She started with her hand and I immediately realized that she was one of those rare women who can administer a very effective punishment spanking with nothing but their hand. It was hard like a paddle which surprised me I guess because she was so sweet? At any rate, I could feel the strength in her hand through my jeans and found myself longing for them to come down.
She applied her new paddle to the seat of my pants for a short time then instructed me to stand up and lower them. Back over her knee, she went to work with her impressive hand over my underpants. The smacks were sharp and loud and she slowly built in speed and intensity. She seemed a bit reserved however. I knew this woman could unleash a severe hand spanking on my helpless bottom but she held back. I wanted her to go for it but I understood why she didn’t. The same reason why I didn’t ask her to I suppose? Her spanks were solid and firm but I could tell they could be much harder and much faster and it wouldn’t have phased her. She switched to the paddle and again, she held back. The sting was never-the-less intense. She spanked in the way I suppose is correct in that situation, slow, measured spanks, not to hard and not too fast. It reminded me more of the erotic spankings I had gotten from L a few years back except the sexual contact was absent. The slow, methodical pace was very similar though. The warm glow building in my covered bottom the time had come and the underpants came down. Lying across her knee with my bare cheeks exposed now, her hand rubbed over my glowing cheeks briefly. Then she began to spank with her hand. The smacks much louder and crisper but still slow and methodic. I wished she would let loose and spank me hard and fast until I regretted bending over her knee. I wanted her to spank me so hard and fast that I begged her to stop and let me up. I wanted it to hurt so much that I struggled against her firm grip, holding me in place as her hand fell over and over and over again! Tonight was not going to be the night however. It was over long before I hoped it would be but, this was a spanking social and not a discipline session! I appreciated the experience and I left there knowing that this lady could deliver a formidable spanking if the need arose and I should actually be thanking my lucky stars again rather than pouting at what I didn’t get! lol
All in all, it was a very nice time and I would recommend it to anyone. I have a link to the Delco Spankos site so if you are in the Philadelphia area and are looking to meet some wonderful folks of like mind, you should check them out. As I mentioned earlier, Miss Lisa is a professional disciplinarian so if you are in this area and would like to book a session, I have provided a link to her personal site as well and I have no problem recommending her in that regard! I look forward to attending another social with this group of wonderful folks in the near future as time permits.